From this book, I learned that I should never judge people by my first impression of them. They could end up being cruel, even if they look very nice. Or they might actually be a great friend, even though they seem conceited. In the future, I will not marry someone just for money or connections. Like Elizabeth, I believe marriage should be based on how you feel about your partner.
I agree with you on not judging people by my first impression. I tend to catch myself judging someone by meeting them one time. Then after I get to know them usually my first impression was wrong. Along with what you said about wanting to marry someone because of how you feel is completely true. I always hear about people wanting to marry someone because they have money. Just because someone has money does not necessary mean they will be a nice person, or someone who will make you happy. I just love your comment, it is so true!
Thanks Brit! I usually am good at not judging people right away, but sometimes I do it without even thinking about it. I agreed with you when you said that marrying for money won't necessarily make you happy. I believe this is true, also!
I did also gain insight through the novel's depiction of just how wrong first impressions can be. People may act a certain way for many reasons, which you may learn as you get to know them. I like your insights on this key element of the novel.
I completely agree with your statement on marriage. How I overlooked this crucial lesson this book contains I will never know. Marriage should be based on feeling/love. Not money or connections. Although, there will always be people like Cathy from "East of Eden".
During the duration of this novel, I discovered my own opinions of marriage. The satirical outlook on marriage allowed me to look at our own society today in a new perspective. I look at the state of marriage today in comparison to what it was in the past. People marry between social and economical classes more often, an attribute I admire of our current society. Marriages today are less impulsive (except possibly in Vegas). Marriages today also demand less loyalty. Adultery is rampant, along with divorce. Even though we marry for better reasons today, there tends to be less effort put into marriage afterwords, and the bonds of marriage tend to shatter with lesser blows. I intend to use these observations if I am to ever get married in the future, hopefully lending to a more successful marriage.
I understand your point of view. Marriage back in the day was all for show and so formal. People had to marry for financial reasons and what their parents or other said instead of love. Even though there are more divorces, people have the freedom to be married to who they want to without any reasons except for love.
I do agree that the freedom to divorce is necessary and beneficial in some situations. However, I do think that is it much too common in our society and people do not attempt to resolve their marriages as often as they should.
I have learned from this dry book based in the most blan era in human history must constain some suspense and treachery to prevent the readers from using it as fire wood. On a serious note: I learned that the looks and actions of people do not show their true colors. Just like this book one can not judge someone (Darcy) that seems completely dull (and arrogant) until one gets to know them. Also it is best to hear both sides of the story before forming your own opinions. Ironically my book mark was a fortune from a cookie that says "The wisest owl hears all before he flies".
I'm with you on that one. We don't always give everyone a chance. Looks and actions can be deceiving especially if it was at the wrong time. Whatever happens in our lives makes us who we are. Being quiet or loud does not define someone as a good or bad person. Putting on a tough persona can mean that you care a lot. Alicia Keys, for instance, hated Swizz Beats when she first met him. Mrs. Keys saw him as an arrogant guy, but eventually got to know each other. A while later, they ended up getting married and had kid. "Never judge a book by its cover."
"Never judge a book by its cover." those words couldn't be more true in the case of people in this book. As for the book itself, my judgement was correct. Also that's a great pop culture example. Thanks Evelyn.
In so many words, this is exactly how I feel about the novel.
This one was hard for me since the one major thing I learned from the novel was not to judge someone based on your fist impression, but someone already blogged about it. Another thing I learned was reputations are not always a good thing. During the time of this book women had a reputation to be clean, and well mannered. But, Elizabeth hardly ever followed that reputation. She was judged because she walked to the Bingleys' house, and once she got there she was covered in mud.I love how she breaks out of that stereotype of women not being able to get dirty. In the future I will not expected people to follow a reputation that they have, because that reputation may not be completely true.
I like your thoughts on the story Brit! It wasn't something that I noticed, but it really is true. A lot of people don't match the reputations that people place on them. In the story, Wichham doesn't follow his reputation of being a well-mannered, nice, and handsome young man. I think this thought matches the idea of not judging some one based on what you first think of them. You never know how people really are until you get to know them well enough.
I think the main thing people got out of this book is not to judge people, like you said. I thought I would branch out off of that general topic. People are judged by many different ways, from appearance, first impression, and even by their reputation. So, I guess we all can agree not to judge some until you get to know them.
I learned that I procrastinate too much. In the future I will pace myself instead of cramming at the end.
I also learned to get to know someone before I judge them too harshly, in Elizabeth's case she judged Darcy based on the first time she saw him. Then later in the novel she falls in love with him.
I learned that I should never judge a person by their first appearance. That the first impression may be the worst, and could miss out on a very terrific person.
This is exactly what I also thought. People all go through so many things and judging them before getting to know their story is not appropriate!
This is very true. Sometimes we want to believe the worst because it seems is easier than getting to know a person.
Yeah I agree, and sometimes you just might catch someone on a bad day.
I completely agree Kenz! And this book was a really good example of that.
As I was read this book, I realized that I'm actually a pretty strong young woman. I definitely do not rely on a man nor will that ever change. Being independent and supporting myself is important to me. Having a "Suga Daddy" is not something I would ever put my dignity to the side for. It was hard to concentrate sometimes, because the Pussycat Dolls song "I Don't Need A Man" was playing in my head. It drives me crazy when women marry for money. I think it is classless and heartless. This book also made me think of what Gaga once said, "If you're wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn't love you anymore." instead of going through all this, I would choose my career over love. Some say that you can only have one, so that's what Id rather have. Times are a lot different today. Women were expected to marry a wealthy man at a young age. Again, people can talk based on prejudice thoughts, but my career comes first. I understand that their parents just wanted to give them a happy life, but that's not me. Suffering to be with some jerk of a guy with money is not worth it.
I was pretty straight forward, so maybe some were scared or don't agree. Not everyone is like me, but that's how I view things. Do not get me wrong, marriage can be a good committment. However, if people get married for all the wrong reasons, I don't believe in that. Maybe no one liked my references, so they didn't want to respond to my blog.
I really like a lot of your points Evelyn! Definitely the one about how you'd rather be alone then with a jerk who has money. The only thing I disagree with is in regards to your Gaga quote. I think if you're in the right relationship you won't ever have to choose between love and your career! Finally, I feel like at the end of your life it's not gonna be all you've done with your career that truly matters but who you've loved and who's loved you back. But I definitely respect your opinions.
Thank you Roxie! You are so sweet for commenting after my frantic response. I completely understand what you're saying. You can absolutely be right, but that's just what I've heard. I'm only eighteen, so I couldn't tell you what love is in that scenario. I don't know what the future holds for me. If I'm granted love and success, then I'd be more than blessed. Roxie, I'll try to have a more positive outlook. Some relationships go down the drain and others are like beautiful blossoms blooming. I just don't want to throw my life away over foolish love. Afterall, love did drive this book.
I learned from this book that I should never assume from the first meeting with someone that that is what they are all about. Getting to know someone's story and their experiences is better than assuming. In the future I plan to always get to truly know people and what they are about before assuming that that is their true character.
I agree, when you truly get to know someone and take the time out to talk to them then your perspective will alter. I think that's what's wrong with many people these days, mostly adults. The make judgements of teens without knowing them.
I learned that women had a little more power, at least Elizabeth did. She didn't marry right away shot down people who ask her hand in marriage. She also mostly went at her own pace and did want she wanted to. Though she didn't have as much freedom as we do today, she seemed to have more freedom than the others.
I agree that Elizabeth had more freedom, and she was proactive in gaining herself that freedom. Being the favorite of her father helped, but she mainly assured herself that freedom by being headstrong.
I agree. Mr. Bennett did favor Elizabeth more than the others and had more respect for her. So she had more freedom. Thank you for your responds.
As I reads this book I learned that I am proud of who I am, and what I believe in. I felt like I could really relate to Elizabeth in the way that she knew what she wanted out of life. Elizabeth wasn't going to marry someone she didn't love just to appease her mother, or because It would have looked proper. I hold these kinds of values very strongly myself.
I think that's great Cassandra. Being a women who has those strong values is very important. This makes you a stronger and more independent person. That alone will take you very far in life!!
I hope so. I have high expectations of myself and I intend to go as far in life as I can. My values and beliefs are what have gotten me this far so I hope they will continue to help me.
As I have read this book something I have learned about this book is that back in this time period most women only cared about one thing and one thing only. Finding a man who will be able to take care of them for the rest of there life. I think this is kind of wrong. Makes it seem like women are only with a man for the money. However these days women are much more independent. I think this is good because it shows how women have matured through the years to become more sophisticated and to be able to stand on there own two feet without the help of a man.
Devin i totally agree with you. women back then only cared about finding a man who would take care of them. women now days have become more independent.
This book really just confirms the idea that you should never judge a book by it's cover, because you may actually end up enjoying it. Elizabeth is a great example because of her judgements at first, but then she ends up falling in love. It made me think a lot about marriage in the future and how I would want mine to be. Something I will do in the future is pace myself more with the reading
That's an amazing point. Marriage was different then and it's different now. I also wonder what value or outlook society will have in the future. Whether on marriage or relationships.
From reading the novel, I have learned to not let my pride get the best of me. This book is mainly based on the characters' pride and how it affects their lives and relationships. I realized that one's pride can give a negative or positive impression to people, and a judgment depends on one's pride that is expressed. In my future, and now, I will continue to contain my pride in a respectful manner.
I learned that I need to very cautious when meeting new people because not only do I judge them on their first appearance but they are most likely judging me as well. So in the future, no matter my mood, I'm always going to try and leave them with hopefully what they think is a good impression. Also I'm going to have a mindset of not "judging a book by it's cover".
That is very insightful. Being in a bad mood does not help when it comes to meeting someone for the first time. If you're not in the mood, you can't just tell them to kick rocks. Putting on a fake smile is hard to do sometimes too.
Thank you! But yes I agree it is very hard. Fortunately for me I don't have that problem very often, but when I do I just have to remember I want leave them with a impression! And Evelyn I'm sure you hardly ever have that problem as well (:
I have learned vanity can be a terrible thing. It can also be the downfall of any of us, as it becomes so easy for us to start to think higher of ourselves in certain situations.
The thing i have learned is that i shouldn't judge another book character lintel I fully understand them. I didn't think that Darcy would be the man he was at the end from what i read of him in the beginning.
What did I learn about myself? What might I do in the future? The best part of the novel is...?What I liked best or least about reading this way? How has blogging helped me or not?